When the line you are standing in isn’t going quick enough, are you jittery inside, looking around for reasons to explain such inefficiency? When someone is explaining their position or telling a story, do you interrupt to get to the end quicker? In a moment of quiet do you turn to your phone to fill the time with something?
In this fast world these are common daily occurrences.
If you said yes to any of these scenarios you are in the majority.
But here is the real question. How do you feel at these times?
You probably don’t even notice how you feel because your attention is on the passing time, or the eegit that is holding up the queue. Or you are looking at the décor because you have stopped caring about the end of the sentence, or are planning he email you have to write.
We are living in a world of distraction. Our attention is on the next thing, the other people, the complaint or blame that has us frustrated, the device, the child, the news, the traffic. We are not aware of what is going on inside of our own selves most of the time. Until pain arrives.
Pain can be in many forms. It could be physical pain where unknowingly we injure ourselves. It could be having gone along with the status quo for so long, we finally notice our stress. It could be every time we go to do what we want to do, a block gets in our way.
Pain, of whatever form, tells us to stop. We don’t want to do this anymore. Our plan for our lives was different. We want change. But how?
It starts with listening. When we are focused on things outside of ourselves we are losing our personal power. The pain, in whatever form, is asking us to stop and listen to what is going on inside of us. The pain arrived because we were not checking in to our internal signals and changing course accordingly. Now we have landed on the rocks. But all we want to do is get off the rocks, get away from the pain, without knowing how or why we landed there. So we survive this time, but the same pain returns because we did not learn the lessons.
Listening to ourselves, our inner feelings and thoughts is an art. It brings about awareness. We don’t just listen to the pain, although the pain is all we hear and see and feel and think about. We must listen deeper, below the pain, to the bigger picture. There we can reveal our secrets, and maybe the answers, to ourselves.
We all have similar problems, habits, unfulfilled wishes. But we cannot solve them as “we”. We have to solve them as “me”.
FM Alexander solved his problem by observing himself and the detail of his movement over a long period of time. What he learned has served a lot of us, but he was not the first or last to solve his problem and develop techniques to solve common problems. He said “Anyone can do what I do, if they do what I did. But none of you want the discipline.”
Of course he is right. There is a discipline in refocusing awareness back to myself in an age where everything is built to distract us. But the practice can be so deliciously self-powering and enjoyable. It takes some time to learn a new practice but all the tools are right there inside of you and me.
We all need help to make a change. Simply because everything we do is habitual and normal. Getting out of the way to allow the balance of our nature find its own way is a new way of learning for us. We have been educated and understand a value in working hard to achieve what we want. Stopping, doing less or something new, requires a change of tack. We don’t have to do more work, use more muscle tension, but that’s what our habits will tell us to do. Understanding stopping is the challenge. We must learn to do less, and it starts with simply and gently listening, gathering information about myself for myself.
Take the time you are gifted, the next time you are in a queue or stalled for no fault of your own, to listen to yourself. Leave the phone alone and look around. See what you see. Hear what you hear. Feel what you feel. Notice your thoughts. Are your thoughts taking you away or can you bring your mind back to your senses?
Bring your self back to your self. That’s where it all starts.
Let me know how you go by commenting below or contacting me directly.
Love Fiona x
Join me as we explore all this and more in a workshop entitled The Art of Listening on March 4th. We will be focusing your attention on the most important person in your world, YOU, and how you move and think. It will be revealing, enlightening and empowering.
Contact me on 087 6503523 or firstname.lastname@example.org to book your place
I am Fiona and I am exploring themes of meeting resistances and allowing ways through. The constant weeding, recognising the stuff that's in the way to live easier.